Working Moms More Accepted: Why Wouldn’t They Be?

by TTMK on July 22, 2015 · 3 comments

working moms acceptedThere are all kinds of biases out there, which seem to apply differently to a variety of different people. It cuts across demographic characteristics, and sometimes defies common sense.

A good example, in my opinion, is the very strong generalization that some folks make about working mothers. In particular, people thinking that a mother working is not really good for kids.

A study with results shared via a the San Diego State University NewsCenter site indicates that views toward working mothers is changing, when comparing how people currently view them versus how they did at prior points in time. That’s good news, when you take it as a stand alone finding.

Specifically, the article notes that in terms of U.S adults who believe that a “preschool child is likely to suffer if his or her mother works” has declined as follows:

  • 1977: 68%
  • 1998: 42%
  • 2012: 35%

That’s a good trend, which shows open-mindedness is more prevalent.

However, here is what I don’t get: why are many people still so focused and judgmental about mothers?

I don’t know too many people that question whether or not a young child will suffer if he or she has a working father? Do you? Why are mothers under such special scrutiny?

One could argue that perhaps it’s a sign that mothers are valued. But if that’s the case, aren’t fathers valued too?

I think that however people want to arrange things in terms of their careers, it’s up to them. Really, what is the difference between having a working mother and a stay at home father, versus a working father and a stay at home mother? Now, I don’t think I could be fulfilled as a full-time stay at home parent, but there might be other men who could be. And more power to them.

At the same time, there might be women who feel the same way. People who have the compelling need to work and having a career. Frankly, many men and women have financial needs that require them to work to take care of their families. I don’t see what’s wrong about that.

It’s interesting to me that as of 2015, working mothers face judgment to the point that the question of should moms work is still a hot topic.  And that over 1/3 of people still think a child suffers if Mom – gasp – has a job.

Again, I don’t see anything wrong with a parent staying at home – or working.

I’m curious what you think about this.

What are your thoughts on the idea that working mothers are more accepted that in the past – but still over 1/3 of U.S Adults feel that a child would suffer?

{ 3 comments… read them below or add one }

Alexandra @ Real Simple Finances July 23, 2015 at 8:07 pm

The mothers vs. fathers working point is spot on, and something I’ve been thinking about for a long time. As a soon-to-be mom, of course I’m flattered that my choosing to work has such a perceived detrimental effect on my child — after all, who doesn’t want to be the most important person in someone’s life? But what about my husband who works 50 hours a week? It makes me upset to think of how much time he’ll miss with our kids. I really believe that if one parent is absent too often, or forced to be on the outside of daily life it can be hard on children. Or maybe I just feel this way because I’m having a boy, and I want him to have dude time with dad as often as possible. 🙂

I guess I don’t have an answer, but I do think about this daily as my husband and I talk about making the switch so that I can work part time and he will stay home with our children.


TTMK July 24, 2015 at 9:54 pm

Thanks for the thoughtful comment, and I think you make some really good points. These are important factors to think about, and the operative word is think – which it’s great that you’re doing as opposed to accepting stereotypes, and I commend you for that.


joe September 28, 2015 at 4:30 am

The reality is 99.9 percent of people only think they have an opinion when really they don’t. You are told what to wear, how to behave, what to eat, what not to eat, everything you think you believe in or even think isn’t really you thinking or believing at all its what you have been trained to believe and think. See lemmings, in short you have been socially engineered bamboozled, tricked. You don’t decided anything or have any real opinions just those regurgitated by the propaganda machine’s that have feed your brains. You hear it enough you believe it. How does that pertaining to this topic? How can it not. Hmm thinker.


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