The question of how to merge finances after getting married is one that seems to come up more and more these days. With both spouses usually working immediately upon marriage, and possibly having ingrained habits and established views of money, it’s important to take care to combine finances the right way.
What’s interesting is that when people get married, money earned after the marriage is considered marital property anyway. To me, the concept of saying something is “his” or “hers” seems arbitrary and somewhat myopic. Since money is legally shared anyway, might as well take the time to do it effectively and in a way that’s agreeable to both people. After all, you’re partners in a very special relationship, right?
Tips on how to merge finances when getting married
- Disclose your finances. It’s best to be completely and totally honest and open about your financial situation before getting married. Share information on your income, savings, debts, and anything else related to your net worth and current or future cash flow.
- Discuss your financial goals. Hopefully, both of you have them. If you’re reading this blog, we can safely say that you have goals 🙂 Anyway, it’s good to talk about what you want to accomplish with money long-term.
- Share your views on saving and spending. It happens so often: one person is a saver, the other is a spender. That might not be a big problem in the big picture, but it’s important to be able to discuss these views and preferences.
- Make a budget. It’s such a common personal finance topic: make a budget and live within it. With people getting married, it’s not like they might necessarily have a long history of understanding each other’s spending habits. Making a budget can help them manage expectations with a shared sense of purpose and agreement.
- Open accounts together. Starting with a bank account, married people can work on combining finances through opening a joint account. Money earned from the beginning of marriage onward can be deposited in this account as a couple starts their life together with joint finances.
- Compromise and respect the other person’s views. Even if you have a different orientation toward money than your significant other, it’s important to completely respect his or her views. Such beliefs can be sourced by direct life experiences, and can lead to established ways of doing things. Best to happily allow each other a fair amount of freedom.
My Questions for You:
What do you think of these steps regarding combining finances when getting married?
Is there one in particular that you think is most important?
Do you have any other suggestions or tips, based on your own experiences or what you have observed