A Bridezilla is often a source of amusement and sometimes fear to onlookers. A person who is so irrationally consumed with “her big day”, that she is overflowing with stress, emotions, and crazy behavior. All, of course, wrapped up in excessive demands and attempts to micromanage and control everything.
I recently heard someone tell a story, at a group lunch, about how she had to deal with one of these types of controlling brides. Actually, it was a bride-to-be she was dealing with, but the situation was just as challenging. Except in this case, the issue was money, and the woman telling the story was a bridesmaid.
The bridesmaid was complaining about how her friend, who was the bride, didn’t understand how the cost of being a bridesmaid could be quite high. Apparently, it was a big deal to her, since she had been asked to be in 4 weddings this year alone. Must be a good friend, right?
Anyway, being a part of 4 weddings must have the potential to be very tough on cash flow. This is what the woman was saying, as she rattled on a list of expenses that come with being in a wedding. Ultimately, she ended up sharing what caused the specific conflict with her friend.
When asked to be in the wedding, she said “Yes!”. Then, she nicely (I assume) told the friend that she was on a budget, since she had 3 other weddings that she was involved in this year. So, she conveyed that she couldn’t participate in every single wedding-related function. As in, she could do one wedding shower, a bachelorette party, and the wedding weekend festivities.
The friend didn’t like that. She didn’t pull back her invitation to be in the wedding party, but was apparently quite snarky toward the new bridesmaid. All over her proclamation that she didn’t want to be a part of every single extra event, due to cost concerns.
I’m on the side of the bridesmaid here. I don’t think there is anything wrong with being honest and saying that you are on a budget. Sure, perhaps she could have said this before accepting. Nevertheless, her candor and legitimate reasons should have been understandable to the bride. I think the bride was behaving like one of those toxic people we previously discussed here!
But, being a guy, I’ve never been a bridesmaid and never will. Groomsman multiples times, yes - but those expenses weren’t too crazy. So given that, I ask you the following questions:
- Do you think the bridesmaid was reasonable in how she handled this? Or, do you think that the bride was justified in being upset.
- Do you think that the high cost of being a bridesmaid is enough of a reason to turn down the honor of participating?