There are of course many things that go into having people become attracted to one another. Looks and attractiveness might be the first draw. What might really draw two people together are other attributes such as sense of humor, having fun together, and simply just wanting to be with each other so much. When similar interests and values are present, it’s a magical combination.
Those are all wonderful things. Hopefully, people don’t put money in the mix as one of the most important aspects of attractiveness. At least that’s my view, as I think that there are far more important things than money in life.
Sound strange, coming from me? Someone who’s been blogging about money for several years, here and elsewhere saying money isn’t super important? Really?
Yes, really. Now, I’m not trying to say that it isn’t important at all. I think that ultimately, it really helps if people see things the same way with money, or can at least work out a happy medium between their two viewpoints and approaches to it. The ability to compromise is a great attribute and skill, and one that can overcome quite a bit.
Additionally, I have to of course acknowledge that money is something that can cause discord. We talk about such things on occasion here. We know that there are many money fights couples have, Accordingly, it’s important to discuss financial goals ahead of time, to make sure people are on the same page. Financial compatibility is huge.
Nevertheless, while money is important, should it really make somebody more attractive. Or, unattractive if they don’t have any?
I find it interesting to think that people would knowingly marry someone who finds his or her financial situation to be a big part of the draw. If money wasn’t there, would that other person still be interested? If the answer is yes, then the person is there with you for the long haul, and may be a genuine keeper. If the answer is no, wouldn’t that be a bit concerning?
What I’m getting at is that despite our surface level, natural affinity for money and security, it’s truly the person underneath it all that matters the most. If two people are truly a great match and meant for each other, one would think that money issues could be figured out for both people to have their needs met.
My Questions for You
What do you think of the notion that money shouldn’t make someone attractive (or unattractive)?
What are your thoughts about the notion that two people who are committed to compromise and mutual happiness can figure out money issues?