According to an in interesting article I read on Market Watch, the answer would be men. The article references a survey that apparently indicated that wealthy divorced men would be much more likely to remarry in the next 5 years than would divorced women.
It would suggest, based on that article, that men are more needy. I’ve written about an insecure husband I knew before, and think that men – like women – have idiosyncrasies that don’t always carry over to the opposite gender. When it comes to money, who has more, and how important of an attribute it is to a relationship, there are probably differences among people.
As a guy, my perception has generally been that when younger, most men and women expect that they will eventually get married. Often times, people want the same general thing in life: a partner, kids, family, and to be loved. It just seems like when younger, women are a bit more focused on it than men, and a little bit more time-sensitive about it. This seems perfectly understandable and fair as there is more of a biological clock issue with women compared to men. There are many exceptions, of course, but based on what I’ve seen I’d say this is a generality that applies to more than half the cases.
What’s interesting is that when faced with a choice of pursuing remarriage presumably when older, the numbers indicate that men are more interested. The first thing I thought of was that maybe women are a lot smarter than guys, figuring out that we don’t change once married. Once bitten, twice shy? It sure seems practical 🙂
On the other hand, men seem anxious to get back in the game and find a companion. And, are willing to use their wealth as a tool to attract a mate, or at least alleviate any concerns that he is interested in her for monetary reasons. They seem less worried about being used for their wealth than women do.
What does this mean? Is it that once she’s independently financially secure, a woman is simply less motivated to marry or have a partner? Or, perhaps once she has that and has kids, she has less incentive to marry or settle?
As far as men go, is it that they generally don’t care about women’s finances, and simply want the companionship for its own sake? Or, are men simply more needy creatures as the years go by?
Maybe it boils down to this: it still might be a little more socially distasteful for a man to be attracted to a woman’s wealth than it is for a woman to be attracted to a man’s wealth. In other words, while many people later in life want to avoid gold diggers, a male gold digger is especially suspect.
I wonder how this has changed over the years, and if different answers on the remarriage question would be given a generation ago when women simply didn’t have all the same career opportunities as they rightfully do today.
My Questions for You
Do these findings surprise you, that wealthy men are much more interested in remarriage than are wealthy women?
What do you think is the reason – or reasons – behind this gap in interest?
Do you agree with the suggestion made above that society less harshly judges women attracted to money than men attracted to money?