Analyzing How Much Money a Person Makes

by TTMK on March 1, 2012 · 11 comments

Show me the money!

So, I was at lunch recently, getting a quick bit in a food court downtown. I didn’t bring my lunch, and wasn’t eating with others, so I did something that might seem unusual – I ate lunch on my own.

Anyway, while getting lunch on my own, I actually noticed the people and conversations going on around me. Usually, if I’m eating lunch with someone else – or just taking something to go and eating back in the office – I’m not noticing what others are talking about.

Well, in this case, I did.

First of all, the woman at the table next to me was incredibly loud in her tone of voice. I mean, it seemed like she just had no idea how loud she was. She was also quite enthused about her story. And, her story was about some guy she was dating.  Her coworker, friend, or whoever it was she was with – was patiently listening and being a good sport.

What I found to be interesting were two things: Her focus on money, and how much she analyzed him in general.

Focusing on Money

The woman was telling her friend about the guy, how he’s funny, mature but immature sometimes (apparently a good thing to her), tall, etc. Basically, going through these attributes about why she liked him. She then mentioned that the guy worked in a prominent building downtown, and drives a Lexus.

“Ooooohhhh!” her friend swooned. “He must be loaded!”

“Yeah”, the original storyteller said. “I think he has another car too, I’m not sure what it is.”

Then, the girl went on to express some concerns. She stated that the guy is 10 years older than her, 33 years old. So, she’s 23 in that case. Then, she went on to switch gears and say that her grandparents were 10 years apart, and she knows another “older” couple that was 12 years apart. She also added that she knew that it’s a big age gap to overcome.

Right away, her friend quickly jumped and said “Um, hel-LO! He drives a LEXUS!”

My thought as I listened to this: well, I thought it was amazing how the primary thing they discussed about him was his money.

Excess Analysis

Maybe “excess analysis” can be described as “raw, premature analysis”.  In other words, all this discussion of the guy’s merits, his financial situation, etc – was all way too early.

Why? Well, the girl telling the story then added: “I’ve only gone out him once, but I really like him”

Are you serious?

My thought I listened to this: Isn’t that jumping way ahead of things to over analyze the person?

Then again, who am I to judge, right? After all, I was eating lunch on my own and paying attention to a nearby conversation 🙂

My Questions for You

Does this strike you as unusual, to focus so much on how much money someone has?

Or, am I being incredibly naive, and this type of intense focus on a person’s money is somewhat commonplace?

Also – what do you think about this level of analysis of somebody after just one date?

{ 11 comments… read them below or add one }

Invest It Wisely March 1, 2012 at 2:49 pm

Well, she’s only 23? Let her learn from experience. I hope she doesn’t plan on marrying the guy based on that initial impression. 😉


TTMK March 3, 2012 at 10:35 pm

Invest it Wisely – let’s hope that initial impression isn’t leading to those thoughts. Although, it seems like her mind already wandered to such detailed evaluations!


Michelle March 1, 2012 at 3:58 pm

I definitely think there’s too much of an emphasis on money in her case.


TTMK March 3, 2012 at 10:37 pm

Michelle – I would totally agree. Just meeting somebody and getting that excited about them in part based on their perceived wealth/earnings potential seems silly.


cashflowmantra March 4, 2012 at 6:44 am

With an attitude like that, she may be single til she is 33. It doesn’t should like she is very mature considering how loud she was talking or her shallow assessment of her date.


TTMK March 5, 2012 at 10:50 pm

cashflowmantra – I think you’re on to something with that assessment. The approach she had wouldn’t be too appealing to most guys.


Financial Samurai March 28, 2012 at 12:05 am

Love the discussion! Now you know why guys want to own nice cars! Very good to see younger women focus on a man’s material items and wealth. If not, what a shame to spend such money.

It’s a two way street. If both get what they want, then why not? All is fair in love and wealth.


TTMK March 28, 2012 at 8:28 pm

FS – those types of situations happen so often, right? Both people make each other happy, no matter how shallow their needs!


Marc April 12, 2012 at 7:16 pm

How ridiculous and naive it is for that young woman to assume that the guy is wealthy just because he drives a Lexus. Please. More likely the guy is leasing it and in debt up to his eyeballs. She should find out if he paid cash for it, if so, maybe then she can start writing stories about his financial prowess.


Leigh April 16, 2012 at 4:37 pm

Holy crap, I can’t believe that woman – this is exactly why young women get a bad name! I wouldn’t consider buying a Lexus, although maybe a CT Hybrid, which actually gets good gas mileage. I’m quite happy with my $20k brand-new (well not so new anymore) sub-compact.

I generally date guys who are older…but I’m also 1-3 years younger than most people in my graduating class, so I’m used to being around older people, not people my age. And most people my age aren’t buying condos and investing for retirement all that much yet. I generally don’t tell people how old I am unless they ask and if they know me through work or mutual friends, they usually guess I’m about 3 years older than I actually am.

I think that’s a ridiculous level of analysis after a first date and I wouldn’t call that girl again if I was the guy she’d gone out with and I’d heard this story.


TTMK May 12, 2012 at 2:48 pm

Leigh – yes, your assessment is along the lines of how I’ve come to see that situation. I couldn’t imagine dating someone like that if you knew. Of course, I’m guessing that she hides these thoughts from him.


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