So, I was at lunch recently, getting a quick bit in a food court downtown. I didn’t bring my lunch, and wasn’t eating with others, so I did something that might seem unusual – I ate lunch on my own.
Anyway, while getting lunch on my own, I actually noticed the people and conversations going on around me. Usually, if I’m eating lunch with someone else – or just taking something to go and eating back in the office – I’m not noticing what others are talking about.
Well, in this case, I did.
First of all, the woman at the table next to me was incredibly loud in her tone of voice. I mean, it seemed like she just had no idea how loud she was. She was also quite enthused about her story. And, her story was about some guy she was dating. Her coworker, friend, or whoever it was she was with – was patiently listening and being a good sport.
What I found to be interesting were two things: Her focus on money, and how much she analyzed him in general.
Focusing on Money
The woman was telling her friend about the guy, how he’s funny, mature but immature sometimes (apparently a good thing to her), tall, etc. Basically, going through these attributes about why she liked him. She then mentioned that the guy worked in a prominent building downtown, and drives a Lexus.
“Ooooohhhh!” her friend swooned. “He must be loaded!”
“Yeah”, the original storyteller said. “I think he has another car too, I’m not sure what it is.”
Then, the girl went on to express some concerns. She stated that the guy is 10 years older than her, 33 years old. So, she’s 23 in that case. Then, she went on to switch gears and say that her grandparents were 10 years apart, and she knows another “older” couple that was 12 years apart. She also added that she knew that it’s a big age gap to overcome.
Right away, her friend quickly jumped and said “Um, hel-LO! He drives a LEXUS!”
My thought as I listened to this: well, I thought it was amazing how the primary thing they discussed about him was his money.
Maybe “excess analysis” can be described as “raw, premature analysis”. In other words, all this discussion of the guy’s merits, his financial situation, etc – was all way too early.
Why? Well, the girl telling the story then added: “I’ve only gone out him once, but I really like him”
Are you serious?
My thought I listened to this: Isn’t that jumping way ahead of things to over analyze the person?
Then again, who am I to judge, right? After all, I was eating lunch on my own and paying attention to a nearby conversation 🙂
My Questions for You
Does this strike you as unusual, to focus so much on how much money someone has?
Or, am I being incredibly naive, and this type of intense focus on a person’s money is somewhat commonplace?
Also – what do you think about this level of analysis of somebody after just one date?